Two years ago, when I was contemplating to quit my job in corporate finance for the first time, one of the reasons was holidays and family time… The lack of it. I know that compared to the miniscule number of vacation days in US our 25 days in Switzerland is not bad at all but when you live away from your families it just feels awfully little. It always comes down to making a choice between family holidays just the four of us and visiting our families back home. Given I’m one of those … I want it all! people… I was often frustrated.
I miss my family so much, I miss my parents being the fantastic grand-parents to my kids, I miss my favourite local dishes and the environment I grew up in. Its been nearly 15 years that I left my country, 20 years that I left my parents house and it is still very important for me to go visit regularly, so sometimes I would spend half or more of my holidays on these visits.
But then, my husband is a foreigner, he doesn’t speak our language and it is difficult for him to engage with my family. Having him spend more than a week at my parents place feels like a ‘waste’ of his time and an additional burden for me, because instead of enjoying every minute of a flawless chitchat and catch up with family and friends I have to keep translating everything to him or to my family, which was ok the first couple of years but now after 10 years together it is just plein annoying …
so he would like us to go for proper family holidays, dedicating time only to ourselves, visiting new places, exploring the world…
I understand that and I really want it too but all this adds up real fast and keeping aside couple of days for Christmas, couple for unexpected events you quickly run dry…
Anyway, this wasn’t obviously the main decision making argument but one of the important ones.. the freedom.. the flexibility, the luxury of time.. and this year I could make it all happen!
I mean, this summer is THE summer I was aiming for when I was quitting two years ago (last summer I was heavily pregnant surviving a major heatwave so not so dreamy).. the unlimited time with my kids, obstacles (nearly) free family visits and our own lovely holiday…
Starting off the summer with two weeks in Greece on Corfu island just the four of us,
then spending two weeks in July with my parents, revisiting my childhood places with my older one,
then spending a week of August with my in-law family with fantastic weather and lovely birthday party for three munchkins, two of mine and also their little cousin’s visiting from Dubai, we celebrated 5th, 2nd and 1st birthdays.
This is living the dream to the fullest and after couple of really tough years in both professional and private life I’m taking it!! I’m loving it!! No shame… I earned it.
It is not obvious to be a working mom. There is a lot you gain but a whole lot you compromise on. But you know, being a stay home mom isn’t exactly a walk in the rose garden either. I’m home since 1.5 year now and I’m still adjusting and struggling with certain parts of it and this summer is my pay off.. it is a reminder and a reward at the same time. Reminder of our choices and reward for our choices 🙂
Sending lots of love to all moms out there ♥
Hope you had lovely summer too, wherever and however you decided to spend it ♥
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